Getting up to get down

It’s friday YAY! Time to unwind and enjoy the weekend.

So this post is about a common problem that isn’t really talked about. When it is talked about it, it can feel very overwhelming or even embarrassing. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed, but you should be ready to want to make changes in your life. I’m talking about erectile issues.  Let’s give some facts and then move toward how you can get better and back in the sack.


Erectile dysfunction is when you can’t stay hard before or during sex. Having a hard time keeping it up from time to time isn’t cause for alarm, but it is cause for you to visit your doctor to figure out the underlying cause is. ED can cause stress to you and your partner, affect your self-confidence and contribute to relationship problems. Lastly having occasional ED can be a sign of risk factors for heart disease or even prostate cancer.

When to talk to your doctor-

  • You have concerns about your erections or you’re experiencing other sexual problems, including ejaculatory dysfunction, such as premature or delayed ejaculation
  • You have diabetes, heart disease or another known health condition that might be linked to erectile dysfunction
  • You have other symptoms along with erectile dysfunction


A lot of the time the cause for ED can be as simple as:

  • Heart disease
  • Clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis)
  • High cholesterol
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • Obesity
  • Metabolic syndrome — a condition involving increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist and high cholesterol
  • Parkinson’s disease
  • Multiple sclerosis
  • Peyronie’s disease — development of scar tissue inside the penis
  • Certain prescription medications
  • Tobacco use
  • Alcoholism and other forms of substance abuse
  • Sleep disorders
  • Treatments for prostate cancer or enlarged prostate
  • Surgeries or injuries that affect the pelvic area or spinal cord

I know some of theses sound pretty scary, but talking to your doctor and getting on the right path towards sex sounds like such an improvement.

There are mental causes for ED as well:

  • Depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions
  • Stress
  • Relationship problems due to stress, poor communication or other concerns

Communication Is a very important part to any relationship, you and your partner should sit down and talk about any issues that are bothering both of you. Clear the air in a calm, cool fashion and move forward to a brighter future.

When you make your appointment-

Keep in mind that you may need to do some tests, a blood test or a urinalysis can help the doctor properly diagnose the issue. The day of the appointment your doctor may not want you to eat or drink anything.  If you’re on any medications let your doctor know because the medication you are taking could be the culprit.


There are some options out there. Medications, at home remedies.


  • Sildenafil (Viagra)
  • Tadalafil (Cialis)
  • Vardenafil (Levitra, Staxyn)
  • Avanafil (Stendra)

Testosterone replacement (TRT) Is an option as well. TRT is for people who have low testosterone levels. Your doctor will be able to tell you if you have low levels with a few tests.

Home Remedies-

There are no supplemental remedies you can buy at the store. You have to work through your issues with your partner, exercise, quite smoking, and stop drinking so heavily.

I know that it can be a little uncomfortable talking about ED with anyone but keep in mind that your doctor is under HIPA law and can not speak to anyone about what is going on with you. You don’t even need to tell the receptionist about why you are there, if she asks tell a little white lie. Remember its not only you in a relationship your partner is in this too and they are feeling as much stress as you project. Or they could be frustrated with the lack of intimacy.  Talk about your kink or if you are genuinely concerned (as I’m sure your partner is too) you may have ED/EI issues go see your doctor so the fun in the bedroom can start again.


Thanks for giving this a read. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.


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